The Skellingcorner

[mariah-wants-to-live]

[xjessr]

ATTENTION ALL GIRLS: Being a ride or die means staying by a man’s side whether he has $500 or $5. Not when he cheats 10 times and you stay.

[taraljc]

“Ride or Die” also means that if he ever hits you, he dies, and you call your bff for a ride.

[firebirdeternal]

Loyalty through hardship is one thing, loyalty through cruelty is another. 

[clotpolesonly]

Loyalty through hardship is one thing, loyalty through cruelty is another.

[mariah-wants-to-live]

[lah-disputes]

I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you!

Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe. 

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Distractions;

Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts. 

• -Draw something
  
• -This website translates the time into colours.
  
• -Create your own galaxy.
  
• -Play flowing.
  
• -Make a 3D line travel where ever you like. 
  
• -Listen to music.
  
• -Calm.
  
• -Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.
  
  
  

Sleep issues; 

• - 8 hour sleep music.
  
• -Rainy mood. 
  
• -Meditation.
  
• -Coping with nightmares.
  
• -How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.
  
• -Calm
  
• -Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively. 
  

 

Uncomfortable with silence; 

• -Rainy mood.
  
• -10 hours of rain and thunder.
  
• -3 hours of rain and thunder.
  
• -Human heartbeat.
  
• -Rainforest.
  
• -Sound of rain on a tin roof.
  
• -Autumn wind.
  
• -Rain on a tent
  
• -Traffic in the rain.
  
• -Soft traffic. 
  
• -Fan.
  
• -Train.
  
• -Simply noise.
  
• -My noise.
  
• -Rainy cafe.
  
  

Anxiety; 

• -How to stop worrying. 
  
• -Tips to manage anxiety and stress.
  
• -The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques. 
  
• -Self-help strategies for anxiety. 
  
• -Helping a friend with anxiety. 
  
• -All about worrying.
  
• -8 myths about anxiety. 
  

Sad, angry and depressed/depression; 

• -“I’m always sad”
  
• -Feeling sad.
  
• -Going through trauma.
  
• -“I’m always angry”.
  
• -Anger management. 
  
• -All about anger.
  
• -National helplines and websites.
  
• -Self-help strategies for depression.
  
• -Dealing with depression at work.
  
• -Dealing with depression at school.
  

Isolation and loneliness; 

• -Pets and mental health.
  
• -All about loneliness. 
  
• -“I feel so alone”
  
• -10 more ideas to help with loneliness. 
  
• -How to deal with loneliness.
  

 

Self-harm;

• -Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.
  
• -146 things to do besides self-harm.
  
• -More alternatives to self-harm.
  
• -Self-harm alternatives.
  
• -How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.
  
• -Getting rid of scars.  
  

Addiction; 

• -How to help a friend with a drug addiction.
  
• -What is addiction?
  
• -All about alcohol and addiction.
  
• -The facts about drug addiction.
  

 

Eating disorders; 

• -Helping a friend with an eating disorder.
  
• -Eating disorder treatments. 
  
• -Support services for eating disorders. 
  
• -Self-help tips with eating disorders.
  
• -Eating disorder recovery. 
  
• -Recovering from an eating disorder. 
  
• -100+ reasons to recover. 
  
• -Understanding and managing eating disorders. 
  

 

Dealing with self-hatred;  

• -3 ways to ease self-loathing. 
  
• -How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.
  
• -Self-hatred resources.
  
• -10 step plan to deal with self-hate. 
  

 

Suicidal; 

• -International suicide hotlines (1)  (2)
  
• -Preventing suicide. 
  
• -Reasons to stay alive.
  
• -Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.
  
• -Coping with suicidal ideation.  
  

 

Schizophrenia;

• -All about schizophrenia.  
  
• -Helping a person with schizophrenia.  
  
• -Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.  
  
• -Delusions and hallucinations.  
  

OCD;

• -Managing your OCD at home. 
  
• -Overcoming OCD.
  
• -How to cope with OCD. 
  
• -Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments. 

Borderline personality disorder; 

• -Helping someone with BPD. 
  
• -All about personality disorders.
  
• -Treatment for BPD.
  
  
  

Abuse; 

• -Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships. 
  
• -Emotional abuse
  
• -Overcoming sexual abuse. 
  
• -Hotlines services. 
  
• -5 ways to escape an abusive relationship. 
  
• -Domestic violence support. 
  
• -Signs of an abusive relationship. 
  
• -What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship. 
  
• -Surviving abuse. 
  
• -What you can do if you’re sexual harassed. 
  
• -Sexual assault support.
  
• -What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused. 
  

 

Bullying;

• -How to stand up against bullying.
  
• -How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.
  
• -How to help stop people bullying you. 
  

 

Loss and grief; 

• -How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.
  
• -Grieving for a stranger. 
  
• -Common reactions to death. 
  
• -Working through grief.
  

(Other loss and grief)

• -Moving away from friends and family. 
  
• -Coping with a breakup.

 

Getting help; 

• -Seeking help early. 
  
• -All about psychological treatments. 
  
• -Types of help.
  
• -All about age and confidentiality. 
  

Things you need to remember; 

• - Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.
  
• -Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not. 
  
• - This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this. 
  
• -You are not alone. 
  
• -You are enough. 
  
• -You are important. 
  
• -You are worth it. 
  
• -You are strong. 
  
• -You are not a failure, 
  
• -Good people exist. 
  
• -Reaching out shows strength. 
  
• -Breathe. 
  
• -Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you. 
  
• -Give yourself credit. 
  
• -Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones. 
  
• -Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend. 
  
• -Focus on the things you can change. 
  
• -Let go of toxic people. 
  
• -You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do. 
  
• -Try not to beat yourself up. 
  
• -Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next. 
  
• -You are not a bother.
  
• -Your existence is more than your appearance. 
  
• -You are smart. 
  
• -You are loved. 
  
• -You are wanted. 
  
• -You are needed. 
  
• -Better days are coming. 
  
• -Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright. 
  
• -You have more potential than you think. 
  
• - Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.
  

Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x

[moodstoned]

thanks bud

[reddieforstenbrough]

You all need this

[nexana]

This is v helpful

[marvellousbee]

[marauders4evr]

Friendly reminder that Vincent van Gogh willingly checked himself into an asylum so that he could get better, resulting in him creating some of the most iconic paintings of his entire career, done in the asylum, when he was being treated 24/7, because he finally didn’t have to struggle with his demons and could instead focus on his muse, WHICH WERE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS!

Remember this little insignificant painting?

How about this one?

Check this one out:

All of these and more were painted in the asylum when he was receiving treatment for his mental illnesses and I know I just said that but I said it again and I’m saying it a third time until you dramatic abled assholes understand!

VINCENT VAN GOGH

- KNEW THAT HE WAS MENTALLY ILL

- WANTED TO CHANGE THAT

- WENT TO AN ASYLUM

- GOT THE HELP HE NEEDED

- PAINTED SOME ICONIC MASTERPIECES AS A RESULT!

SO DON’T YOU DARE COME OUT HERE WITH THIS, “I WISH I WAS DEPRESSED SO I COULD BE AS CREATIVE AS VAN GOGH” BULLSHIT BECAUSE EVEN HE KNEW THAT HIS DEMONS WERE HARMING HIS WORK, AND MORE IMPORTANTLY, HIS HEALTH, AND HE DID EVERYTHING WITHIN HIS POWER TO FIGHT THEM EVERY SINGLE DAY OF HIS LIFE, UNTIL THEY ENDED UP WINNING! 

[aearyn]

SOMEONE CAUGHT IT

HE ONLY SAYS IT ONCE AND YOU CAN’T MAKE HIM SAY IT AGAIN BY RELOADING :’) 

YES I’M SCREAMING SHUT UP

[imagetochigau]

[mariah-wants-to-live]

[tomloki]

HIDDLESWEEK | Day Six

Favorite Quote

To quote Walt Whitman, ‘I contain multitudes.’

[writingwithcolor]

Description: Making Representation Obvious

[tropesaretools]

Sometimes you have to code characters, either because the terms they use to describe themselves don’t exist (like secondary world fantasy), or because they haven’t found the words themselves yet (undiagnosed illnesses and disabilities). But if at all possible, you should make it clear who these people are and own that you’re putting them in the story.

Even if you actively can say that somebody is part of a certain group, you still have to make sure you’re not -washing them in the narrative. Be it whitewashing, straightwashing, abledwashing, or any sort of situation where you say one thing, but the story itself doesn’t reflect that.

Here are some things to consider that will help you make it obvious that…

This character is PoC

Describe:

• Skin tone (just don’t use food metaphors)
  
• Hair texture/colour (especially black hair)
  
• Most commonly eaten foods at home
  
• Microaggressions
  
• Cultural clues that they would have (either assimilated or not, because both will have tells)
  
• Their opinion of white people/things outside of their experience
  

This character is LGBTQA+

Describe:

• Who they’re attracted to (or lack thereof)/past crushes (or lack thereof)
  
• Their circle of friends (seriously, we travel in packs, I know like five straight people)
  
• For trans characters: hormones, binders, packers, breast forms, tucking. Also, for more subtle clues, pronoun asking, euphoria at gender affirming things (like them being proud of their particularly dapper, feminine, or ‘I have no idea what gender that is but I like it’ style), dislike of off-gender things (like complaining about somebody getting them something that doesn’t match how they like to present)
  
• The actual orientation that they are, for crying out loud
  
• Their opinion of straight people/things outside of their experience
  

This character is disabled

Describe:

• Their disability. Preferably in the actual labels, or make up your own labels for a secondary world fantasy
  
• Any mobility, hearing, or speaking aids
  
• Behaviours that come with the disability (ie- stimming such as rocking or flapping for autistic/ADHD people, navigating through appropriately wide paths for wheelchairs/walkers, sitting on one side of the group conversations to make sure their good ear catches it, etc)
  
• Levels of aid needed and any accommodations
  
• Avoiding things that trip them up (like somebody autistic not wanting to go where it’s crowded, a wheelchair user avoiding curbs, a Deaf person making sure there’s a sign language interpreter at a concert, somebody with celiac avoiding gluten like the plague)
  
• Plan cancelling because it’s a bad day, or having to leave early because the environment is bad
• Medications, doctors, etc, if applicable
  
• Self care rituals for after a long day or during a flare up
  
• Their opinion of abled people/things outside of their experience
  

This character is mentally/chronically ill

Describe:

• Their symptoms, from good to messy, consistently
  
• Their energy levels, as many of us use the spoon theory
  
• Self care rituals they practice during flare ups or after hard days
  
• Medication, doctors, therapies, etc
  
• Cancelling plans because a bad day came up, or having to leave early because the environment is bad
• Triggers and their individual reaction to their triggers
  
• Their opinion of well people/things outside of their experience

And so on. These lists are not meant to be exhaustive at all, but they are meant to get you thinking about how you need to go about describing representation.

One thing to note: you can go about establishing representation in one of two ways. Either have the characters noting their differences, or them nothing others’ differences. Neil Gaiman’s Anansi Boys describes white skin when it appears, because within the narrator’s world, black skin is the norm. But others note their own differences. It’s all about their character.

Either one requires a lot of careful thought and sensitivity readers, but both are valid* options for owning** representation.

Followers, feel free to add more!

*Do be aware that some groups are chronically under-represented when it comes to the actual word of their identity. Bisexual people hardly have characters say the word as their identity. Autistic people also hardly have characters say the word as their identity. Be very careful of not having characters talk about themselves if the group is prone to being coded but not explicitly represented

**You have to actually own it and say they’re that when people put all the clues you left together

Thanks for reading! If you liked this content, please consider supporting me on patreon. It’ll get you access to a bunch of cool stuff!

[sweetlittlevampire]

Happy SuperBlueBloodmoon!

I had actually planned to stay up late, but I have an important exam first thing in the morning that I absolutely have to nail…but what I did was craft!

I’ve been looking for a pendant with Hecate’s Wheel on it for ages but never found one to my liking. So I made this one out of black polymer clay. I wanted it to look like something old that has been found, overlooked by most, cherished by those who know its meaning. It’s by far not perfect, but I am really proud of it. 

I am going to charge it under tonight’s full moon, alongside my crystals, tarot & oracle cards, and moon water. 

[perioddramaedits]

Anonymous asked:

Can you recommend some period tv series or movies with slow burn romances?

weloveperioddrama answered:

Hi! Of course, here you have some recommendations:

• Belle (IMDb)
• Carol (IMDb)
  
• Cranford (IMDb)
  
• Doctor Thorne (IMDb)   
• Ever After (IMDb)
• Far From the Madding Crowd (IMDb)
• Jane Eyre (2006) (IMDb)
• Jane Eyre (IMDb)
  
• Jodhaa Akbar (IMDb)
• Little Dorrit (IMDb)
• North and South (IMDb)
• The Paradise (IMDb)  
• Still Star-Crossed (IMDb) 

And (almost) any Jane Austen adaptation too, she’s the queen of the slow-burn :) Some of the adaptations we recommend are these:

• Emma (2009) (IMDb)
  
• Northanger Abbey (2007) (IMDb)
• Pride and Prejudice (1995) (IMDb)
• Pride and Prejudice (2005) (IMDb)
• Persuasion (2007) (IMDb)
  
• Sense and Sensibility (1995) (IMDb)
• Sense and Sensibility (2008) (IMDb)

There are a few slow-burn romances in longer tv shows, but keep in mind that the relationships aren’t always the focus of the show, and that this phase of the relationship might only take place in one or two of the seasons:

• The Devil’s Whore (IMDb)
  
• Downton Abbey (IMDb)
• Miss Fisher’s Murder Mysteries (IMDb)
  
• The Musketeers (IMDb)
• Outlander (IMDb)
• Poldark (IMDb)
  
• Victoria (IMDb)

We hope you find something to watch! :)

[sweetlittlevampire]

TFW a lipstick gives you more self-confidence than you ever had in your entire life. Acquired this gorgeous shade this afternoon and just had to put it on and snap a pic. Makes me feel absolutely magical.  ✨

[sweetlittlevampire]

I’VE GOT MY INTERNSHIIIIIIIP!

From public service broadcasting to independent radio - some might consider it downgrading. But at this place, they offer me the opportunity to produce my own weekly show (!!!) and to join them in a five day workshop in Germany where I’ll be able to work with tons of German independent broadcasters (!!!), whereas…

Don’t get me wrong, I loved my time at the public service radio. I went to press conferences. They even trusted me enough so that I could attend one alone and interview a politician, and my article about it was broadcast (although I only wrote it, I did not speak), but they would never let someone produce a whole show after like six weeks of being there. Not even a small thing, or barely a 30 seconds thing. So I feel that, in this perspective, I will learn much more at the independent station.

Also they’re super friendly, very funny, and they love cookies.