nochillpokemon asked:
(2/2) they meet again, he has no idea that the protagonist is his “dead” childhood friend and he reacts a badly because of the reminder of his friend and crush so soon after the death. Lots of arguing and fighting between the two for a while. I don’t want to play into the aggressive black man with dreads stereotype, and the prince is already a part of a military school so should I find a different way to show how badly he was effected by the protag’s “death”? Thank you for your time.
Black man reacts in anger to reminders of dead friend/lover
Your character is grieving. Grief may come out in the form of anger, especially at reminders of such a painful experience. His upbringing, unresolved feelings, self-blame, all these things could lead to such reactions.
There could very well be other non-anger reactions and vulnerability you could show as well.
Personal Experience Time: When my father died, one of my sisters and I (whom i’m quite close with) fought a lot for no good reason. Not so much with others, just each other, not that we blamed the other for the circumstances at all. Grief just does strange things to people and it’s hard to control. We were going through the same thing and took it out on each other. There were other moments of denial, depression, and so on during the grief, but anger was one way it was expressed, and it was very specifically-directed anger. It didn’t define the whole of our grief, though.
Grief is not one-toned. There would likely be tender moments and vulnerability that slip out. Show that, too. At some point, it should be clear his anger isn’t just randomized aggression towards this person either, but because of the painful reminders and the emotion it pulls from him against his will.
Allow him to grieve, to be human! If he were constantly seeking a fight with everyone, unrelated to the “Dead” friend, i’d feel more reluctant about this characterization. However, it’s clearly a focused aggression (ultimately reflecting his hurt).
It doesn’t mean he’s justified in the harm he may cause during his pain, but no one said all Black characters had to be perfect either. They just have to be human (when they’re in fact, humans).
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